Communication-Tips For How To Shift Yours

Communication, generally speaking, refers to how we pass information to one another and to ourselves through speech, non-verbal communication (facial expressions and hand gestures), body posture, writing, and visualcommunication.

Our communication choices can lead to our feeling more or less connected to others. Part of the group or separate from.

If someone tells you that the impact of your words was hurt or harm, you get to choose as an adult, in your emotional adulthood, to own that impact.

Let’s examine different motivations for why you may communicate in the ways you do.

Communication should serve to show ourselves, our truest and most authentic selves, to others.

Another common pattern is using communication to try to force a connection with someone else.

We put our focus on the other person and try to make them feel comfortable or to get them to like us.

As always, step one is a deep breath, connecting inward.

Step two, if the situation allows, is to find a reason to remove yourself for just a moment.

Once you’re out of there, the next step is to use some quick thought work to reorient yourself.

But it’s not your job to make other people happy. That’s up to them.

As women, we’re often told directly and indirectly that we shouldn’t speak up for what we want.

As a coping mechanism, some of us develop the habit of indirect communication.

No one wants to be on the receiving end of that form of indirect communication.

When we communicate with guilt and resentment piled on to an indirect communication, we are doing nothing good for the long-term health of our relationships.



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Victoria Albina, NP, MPH

Victoria Albina, NP, MPH

Victoria Albina, NP, MPH is a certified life coach, breathwork facilitator, holistic Nurse Practitioner and host of the podcast Feminist Wellness.