Constraint Of Thought: How To Make A Plan And Stick To It

So constraint of thought simply means reducing the number of choices that you make and reducing the number of thoughts that you decide you’ll engage with, versus letting roll on through your consciousness, mucking up your day.

That’s why we’re talking about constraint of thought after talking about restriction and allowance because it’s completely human to have urges and that there’s nothing wrong with that.

Your brain offers you all sorts of pros and cons for any decision, which can send you into analysis paralysis in a major way as you wrestle with all the possible scenarios rolling around in your head.

I use constraint of thought — I know who you are, I know who I am, and I talk to you to share the lessons that I know we need to hear. That’s constraint of thought.

I can hear you thinking that all this constraint of thought will make you into a robot who just sticks to some super strict schedule and doesn’t feel the flow of creative energy.

So, not unlike our genius rat friends, the goal here in using constraint of thought is to focus your energy, your brain, to reduce in-the-moment decision making, to bring in more ease, more creative problem solving, more gentleness.

By not giving my brain the space to ramble around about the things that don’t matter at all, I have so much more free emotional and energetic time for the things that do.

Constraint of thought has helped me to short-circuit that whole waste of time and energy.

I used to feel like I was always behind and stressed and overwhelmed, and I didn’t realize that I could just decide I was going to give myself focus time and that I could commit to it.

And that is the core of constraint. It’s about clearing away all the gunk so you can truly allow yourself to be your most focused, creative, abundant self, and it feels amazing.

  1. Don’t trust ourselves.
  2. Trust everyone’s opinion more than our own.
  3. Are so focused on other people and their whims.

Constraint of thought really helps to reduce that decision fatigue.

Me first, you second, with love is a type of constraint of thought.

If you’re thinking of constraining anything as a restriction or a limitation, you’re not going to stick to it.

Give yourself some time, think of those solutions, the goals, even if you don’t know the actual solution for whatever problem you have, you can start to brainstorm some ways you could move forward.

I just go ahead and do it because I matter enough to me and this matters to me, to have this kind of constraint of thought.

  1. Do what I plan to do, stick to my commitment.
  2. Do thought work on why I don’t want to do that specific thing.
  3. Or stare at a blank wall.



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Victoria Albina, NP, MPH

Victoria Albina, NP, MPH

Victoria Albina, NP, MPH is a certified life coach, breathwork facilitator, holistic Nurse Practitioner and host of the podcast Feminist Wellness.