Guilt Guilt Guilt! Helpful Vs. Unhelpful Guilt

Guilt is an emotion, a feeling, a sensation in your body.

The problem is when we feel guilty about all of the things, or when we can’t learn from the experience and then let go of guilt.

Guilt is also not helpful when it’s about a situation beyond our control or when it’s about emotionally caretaking another person.

I’m not saying we don’t apologize when someone says ouch.

I feel guilty wouldn’t be your verbal framing if your thoughts about the issue at hand weren’t creating that experience for you.

Given the opportunity, we can create a guilt story about just about anything and that’s the point.

That kind of guilt doesn’t move your life or anyone’s life forward in any way, my sweet little ravioli.

The former, the prosocial guilt moves us to take useful, skillful action in the world to make our world a better place.

As you begin to spin on the terrible thing you did and how it means you’re just very, very bad, which leads you to beat yourself up.

When you recognize that you’re telling a story that you need to feel guilty about something, pause, center yourself, ground yourself in your own body.

When you guilt yourself for having a thought, you don’t want to have, it’s like a doubling down in your brain. Layering bad feelings on bad feelings.

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Victoria Albina, NP, MPH

Victoria Albina, NP, MPH

Victoria Albina, NP, MPH is a certified life coach, breathwork facilitator, holistic Nurse Practitioner and host of the podcast Feminist Wellness.