Rejection Has Nothing To Do With Your Worth

If someone was rejected, we assume that meant there was something wrong with them, or why would they be left behind or cast out?

Rejection can trigger your amygdala, the fear center of your brain, which is why it can feel so scary.

Functional MRI studies, a kind of brain scan that uses magnets, show that rejection activates the same part of the brain as physical pain.

Vital caveat my beauties, if rejection, particularly early childhood or familiar rejection is keeping you feeling stuck, the following will hopefully be helpful for you as a framework and can give you some tools to help yourself.

We make someone else not wanting what we have to offer mean something about us and our worth, our value.

When at its core and in truth, someone saying no to whatever the request is is just a human saying no.

When you reject yourself, your ego looks for experiences that strengthen that belief, that worry about your own unworthiness.

So we take things personally and feel rejection pretty darn frequently, often when we’re not actually being rejected.

What it comes down to is this; someone saying they don’t want what you’re offering, whatever that may be, has nothing to do with you.

Other people will have their thoughts and feels, much like you will.

So I want to really empower you to speak your truth, to say what you want and need, and to not worry about the other person feeling rejected, trusting in yourself that you’re speaking with kindness.


But what if someone saying no doesn’t mean anything about you?

You get to choose reframes that have nothing to do with you because most things aren’t about you.

But the more you can lean into your self-confidence, the more you can feel that deep dedication to valuing your own approval of you over anyone else’s.

  1. Get neutral about it.
  2. Not take it personally or make it about you.
  3. Process the emotion through your body.
  4. Decide it’s totally okay to not be liked by every human on the planet if you like you.
  5. You can decide that you’re no longer going to live in fear of rejection because you know you have a plan and you trust you to have your own back.

What if you never had to fear rejection?



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Victoria Albina, NP, MPH

Victoria Albina, NP, MPH

Victoria Albina, NP, MPH is a certified life coach, breathwork facilitator, holistic Nurse Practitioner and host of the podcast Feminist Wellness.