The Inner Critic: 3 Steps To Manage Your Gremlins


What helped me to start to tease apart the voice of my inner critic and my own voice is to ask: would I say these things to someone I love? To a client? A friend? Even a stranger?

My inner critic has a harsh tone, rushed and urgent energy, a frenetic feel, a loud energy or volume even, is demanding of my attention and energy.

My body does not love tuning in to my inner critic!

Next, is acceptance.

My darling inner critic — hello, thanks for joining us today. What’s up for you? What is it that you want me to know? What are you trying to protect me from?


This is the step in which you get to take courageous action for your own life, and to make a conscious, thoughtful, self loving choice about how you will relate and respond to your inner critic.

Awareness — I have an inner critic.

Acceptance — that voice is not me, it’s just a part of me.

Action — I don’t have to be mean to that voice in return or exile it. I can meet it with love and compassion while also deciding, sometimes 473 times a day, not to believe it.



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Victoria Albina, NP, MPH

Victoria Albina, NP, MPH

Victoria Albina, NP, MPH is a certified life coach, breathwork facilitator, holistic Nurse Practitioner and host of the podcast Feminist Wellness.